When will the gay bullying stop? That is a question that has been asked by the LGBTQIA+ community for many years. The answer might be better appreciated if asked, “Will parents teach their children not to be bullies?” The common denominator with any type of violence that involves children is abusive parents. There’s a cycle that needs to be broken.
As a society we educate our population, but what happens when that education is blocked?
Are the children not getting the proper education at home to survive in the world? A bully, for the most part, is leaching out what he picks up at home. He is acting in a manner that he ascertained how to behave from his parents, siblings, and family in general. His father called the neighbor a fag. That means he can probably play a bit too.
Responsibility for our children’s education starts at home. Not in the typical sense of training, where you learn your ABC’s and your multiplication tables. The education on how to behave, to respect others rights, and above all, know the difference between right and wrong. The central word is educating respect. It’s difficult to teach that respect to a child when one was raised without it. Hence the cycle repeats. The kid did not learn from his parents, their parents from their own and so on and so forth back in the beginning.
It’s a proven fact, it’s not an opinion and it has not been studied that parents do not pay attention to how they behave and not remark how it’s affecting their kids.
To experience this first hand, attend an elementary school during the drop off time and the pickup time. See how parents speed through to arrive in front of the school coach. Pay attention to how they do not let others cut through the street. Listen to the words they scream from their cars to the minors that are taking slow steps. Cringe at each car that nearly hits a kid because the parent is on the telephone, or buckling their child as they drive. You will leave the school wondering how those children will grow up. Will they be bullies just like their parents?
If we want to see less gay bullying at school, we need to start with the parents.
If parents taught their children by actions it would be most beneficial to society. Let’s examine what we do as parents and proceed from there. We as a society can eliminate bullying. It might require a generation or two to follow. The wait is worth it.
