hidden sexualities

Rainbow Hands

When you tell people your sexuality, you expect them to understand. You expect them to either go, “Oh, that’s cool!” or “Oh, that’s something I can’t handle.” Most people are able to come out with a sexuality that is widely known; which makes it easier for people to comprehend. However, a great number of people don’t have that option. The main sexualities that people are aware of are Straight, Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and sometimes Pansexual. The truth is, there are way more out there that we need to start focusing on. Some of these other sexualities include Abrosexual, Akoisexual, Apothisexual, Cupiosexual, Demisexual, Fraysexual, and Polysexual. There are actually even more, but these are some other sexualities that people find themselves able to identify as.

For starters, let’s go back to the last two in the first list. “Bisexual” and “Pansexual” are two umbrella terms that describe liking more than one gender, although there is a huge difference. Bisexuality is the attraction to two genders, most often female and male, while Pansexuality is the attraction of all genders, including transgender and non-binary people.

Now with the other sexualities, their stories are way more complicated, but need to be known. For starters, someone who is Abrosexual fluctuates between different sexualities depending on their mood. This may sound like a joke to you and me, but there are enough people feeling this way for it to be an identification. Akoisexual people experience attraction, but do not wish for it to be acted upon. These people could possibly be called “sexually aware” asexuals seeing as it cannot be reciprocated. This one is a bit hard to understand, but Apothisexual people are completely repulsed by sex or romance. They prefer the single life. Unlike Apothisexuals, Cupiosexuals have a lack of attraction sexually, but desire a relationship with someone. Again, this is somewhat an umbrella term for asexuality. Demisexuality is actually very common. It is when someone experiences attraction only after a close relationship is formed. Most people would consider this normal, but some people do not need to develop feelings for someone to be sexually interested in them. Now here’s my personal favorite, considering it describes me: Fraysexuality. Being Fraysexual is being only sexually or romantically attracted to someone that you are less familiar with, and losing interest when you get to know the person. For me personally, I experience this in a romantic sense. So here we are, to the final sexuality we will be discussing today: Polysexuality. Someone who is Polysexual is attracted to multiple genders, but not all of them.

These are some sexualities we should be familiar with. These are some sexualities that are important to learn. Knowing what someone means when they tell you their sexuality is key. Hopefully, now you’ll know.