Slut shaming is the worse right? I mean, how can someone judge you for what you do with your own body? But, unfortunately, it happens. Whether you’ve just got out of a relationship or you’ve been single for a while, if people find out you’ve slept with more than 3 people in a small time frame the BAM! You’re an instant slut. Also, bottom shaming is ridiculous too. The idea that you can look down on someone and judge then just because of what they like to do in the bedroom is childish and trivial, but that’s a bit of a deeper problem in the queer community so I’ll address that at a later time.
But I’m here today to tell you there’s absolutely nothing wrong with sleeping around but there are a few guidelines you should probably follow if you want to be able to keep your haters in check whenever they have something shady to say.
- Stay safe – This should go without saying but let’s say it anyway. You have to keep up with your health and make sure you’re protected at all times and that means condoms, condoms, and more condoms. It also means asking the lucky guy/girl you’re about to get busy with if they have anything and when they’ve last been tested. I know it’s a bit of a mood killer to have to do it but if you really value your health you’ll get to it.
- Do it for you – Make sure you’re doing this for the right reasons. Doing it because your boyfriend broke up with you and you need to fill a so-called void or for clichéd fatherly reasons doesn’t really cut it. Talk to someone and get some help for something like that. This should be about sexual and personal freedom, not a way to work through life’s problems. Also, I get that sometimes we wish we could be like certain people, real or fictional, because they seem to have all this confidence or whatever but if having multiple sexual partners is not for you then don’t force it. You’ll just end up hurting or disappointing yourself by pretending to be someone you’re not. We all can’t be a Samantha.
- Enjoy yourself – And I don’t mean in the obvious way (although you should be enjoying that part as well) but after the festivities are over you should feel good about yourself; empowered even. Especially if you follow rules 1 and 2. If, afterwards, you don’t feel right then you should stop.
Slut shaming is wrong and damaging but when you’re in control of your sex life and you know what you’re doing then nobody’s opinions will matter.